Welcome to the first edition of Coached.
This is a show about leadership development. Expect to hear conversations that get inside the minds of successful CEO’s as well as the people (coaches and thought leaders) that support them.
In this episode I want to talk about three things:
1. The expectations we need to create and that we need to let go of
Expectations are important because they set the standard.
But what happens when our expectations of how things should be start getting in the way of us actually doing the work?
This happened to me when I was writing the daily email. It got to the point where I put a huge amount of pressure on myself to make sure that every post was insightful. I wanted to blow people’s minds with everything that I wrote.
One of the reasons I felt like this was because more and more people that I deemed as influential was signing up for my newsletter. Pretty soon I stopped writing for me and started writing for them and the opinion I wanted them to have of me.
The perfect recipe for unrealistic expectations.
So, how do we create expectations but not be bound by them?
Well, I think it requires us to:
- Set expectations for the process and not the outcome.
- Set expectations for yourself and not for others.
“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”― Bruce Lee
2. Attain and Attune
I recently heard Chip Conley talk about the idea of Attain and Attune.
This really struck a chord for me and provided some new language for a concept that I already believe in.
My interpretation of it is that we spend a lot of time in Attain Mode. Working towards things. Doing things. Moving.
But that we don’t spend enough time Attuning to that which we really want, really want to be, and really should focus on.
There is a natural flux between these two states.
So, how are you splitting your time?
I was recently invited by the awesome guys at Missing Link to facilitate a session for Mimecast.
An idea that I spoke about on the day was that you have to create a PFL for yourself.
A Plan For Learning.
Personally, I think that a lot of learning goes to waste because we listen and consume information on the fly. It’s just something we use to drown out the silence or to curb the boredom.
There is a time for that.
But you should also have more focused learning.
Inspired by who you want to be and where you want to go.
In this way, you almost create a mini-curriculum for yourself consisting of books, podcasts, videos and more.
So, imagine spending a few hours really curating the best content on the topic.
Then over the next few weeks dedicating an hour once a week to real, deep, meaningful learning.
Way more powerful an approach.
That’s it for today.
Acta Non Verba,