Influence Not Control


“Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears.” ~ Marcus Aurelius

A man breaks down on the side of the road with a flat tyre.

He sees a farm house in the distance and decides to see if they might have a jack that he can use.

While walking he starts thinking:

“What if these people decide to charge me for using their jack? What if they charge me R100? R500? R1000?”

“What if they are arrogant and think that they are superior to me?”

He knocks, the door opens, and without allowing the farmer to utter a word the man says to the farmer “You know what. Just keep your damn jack.”

We love to pre-frame situations. Imagining that we know how people will respond in certain situations or how something will play out.

We exaggerate, catastrophise, and get worked up.

When you catch yourself doing it. Stop.

Start from neutral.

Focus on influencing the situation and not controlling it.

Acta non verba,

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Erik Kruger

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